(DISCLAIMER: All you academic philosophers will have to forgive my outrageous over-simplicity. Please remember that I am not writing to, or for, academics,per se… although I do consider my readers to be perhaps the most intelligent generation to ever walk the face of this planet.)
One of my favorite philosophers to read is a dead Danish dude named Soren Kierkegaard. Kierkegaard is a great read for Christians and non-Christians alike. He was a Christian guy whose studies not only made him a well-educated philosopher but also prepared him to be a pastor in the state-run Lutheran Church of Denmark. Since he became acutely opposed to the notion of a “state-run” church, he never ended up becoming an ordained minister; rather he chose to live his life as a philosopher and prolific writer. In secular philosophical circles he has come to be known as “The Father of Existentialism”—a title that is impressive but not necessarily accurate in my opinion. You may be thinking, “That’s great Matt. Now we know a couple small facts about an old, dead dude. What’s your point already?” While I could go on forever on Kierkegaard’s brilliance, his thoughts on the human “self” and on relationships are absolutely wonderful. Check it out:
Kierkegaard taught that all human beings share an intrinsic, life-long task, namely, that of becoming an authentic human ”self.” Simply stated (over-simplified, to be sure), a “self” is a person who is in a constant state of “relating” This is extremely intriguing to me and it may intrigue you as well. I’ll explain.
According to our philosopher friend (and I believe this to be true from a spiritual perspective), human beings are extremely complex individuals. People are not mere animals, but are also spiritual beings. Humans are a composite, if you will. We are both finite and infinite, temporal and eternal beings. If Kiekegaard is right, and it’s true that people are this freaking complex, I am forced to ask the questions, how in the world are we supposed to relate to each other? I mean, no wonder men can’t figure out women. I’m so complex I can’t even figure myself out!
Kierkegaard argues that the complexity of each human person is so great that there is no natural way for us to properly relate to each other. Instead, he argues that all human relationships must be grounded in something outside the natural realm, something infinitely greater than our confusing and complicated selves, something eternal. So, being a philosopherand a Christian, Kierkegaard claims that this eternal “something” must be God. Only the eternal God can establish and sustain a relationship between two complex, finite entities.
So, here’s why I love this guy. Think about the implications of his argument:
1) According to this view, the only way for me to truly be myself (that is, a human “self”) is for me to acknowledge that I was not created to be a hermit, keeping to myself, hiding away from others. No, I was created and tasked to be a communal, social creature. I must be actively relating to those around me or else I am not really an authentic human “self.” And I can only be in proper relation to those around me when I allow God to be the one who establishes all my relationships. This doesnot mean that I can only have authentic relationships with Christians (or other theists), but that I acknowledge all my relationships are gifts from God whether or not the other person accepts this fact. Therefore, I have a responsibility to God for the way I treat those with whom I have a relationship since He is actually a silent-but-active “3rd party” in every relationship. Imagine what it would be like if all Christians thought this way. We’d all realize God is involved with each and every human encounter. Perhaps we’d all treat each other with greater love and respect, regardless of who the other person is or what that person believes.
2) But it gets better. According to Kierkegaard, because I am such a complex entity, I need to learn how to relate to myself. I need to get to know myself, explore all my intricate parts, learn how to get all of my split personalities to relate to each other, learn how to unify the complexity that is Matt Lybarger. According to Kierkegaard, this too requires that we allow God to be the one who establishes and sustains our own inner-relatedness. Only God is capable of unifying our inner-selves.
How cool is that? It means there is actually potential for me to someday understand and relate to my inner freak! I don’t know about you, but sometimes I am astounded at the craziness that exists within myself. It’s like I don’t even know myself (or recognize myself) sometimes. But, if Kierkegaard is correct, there is a being powerful enough to take all my weirdness, brokenness, fallenness, sinfulness, goodness, and loveliness and cause it all to somehow transform into an authentic human “self.” I can actually be at peace with myself and with others (and, of course, with God) if only I accept the task of allowing God to be the source and sustenance of all my relationships. I don’t have to be perfect. I don’t have to have it all together. In fact, it seems par for the course that the underlying assumption is that I do NOT have it all together, that I am a crazy, fragmented, complexity of split-ends, and that I lack all ability to get myself together on my own. How cool is that realization?!?!
For everyone reading this who intrinsically knows that humans are meant to be communal beings, take it from Kierkegaard: God is the only hope for such a vision. The one, true God who is seen in the face of Jesus is the missing link in our quest to be social creatures!
–Matt
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